For several months, my boyfriend and I have talked about including another woman or a couple in our sex play. We're both attractive, sophisticated, fit, fun-loving people who enjoy socializing, but we were clueless about how to initiate sensual play with others. We tried ads, strip clubs. No luck. We always felt awkward and a bit illicit. We knew we needed to find an environment filled with like-minded people to decide if this was really something we wanted to explore. We also enjoy the idea of behaving erotically in front of others--whether it's dancing or touching.